What Therapy for Men Actually Looks Like
What Therapy for Men Actually Looks Like (Denver, Colorado)
Men's therapy gives you a private space to talk through what is happening in your life, understand patterns that may be keeping you stuck, and work toward meaningful change. Many folks experience stigma surrounding attending therapy. In reality, therapy is an open, compassionate space for you to explore your internal world.
What do you actually talk about in therapy for men?
Therapy for men can look several different ways. Some folks come because of challenges with processing emotions, feeling connected to their partner, or processing any type of trauma.
In my work with clients, I am interested in understanding what is happening beneath the surface, not just helping someone manage the immediate problem. That might mean exploring how you learned to relate to other people, what happens when you feel vulnerable, or why certain situations bring up reactions you do not fully understand.
Therapy can give you room to explore questions like:
Why do I shut down when my partner wants to talk about something difficult?
Why do I feel like I should be able to handle everything myself?
Why is it hard to say what I need or ask for help?
Why do I feel disconnected from my partner, even when I love them?
Why does sex feel complicated when I want it to feel natural?
Why do I keep repeating patterns I thought I had already worked through?
You do not have to know the answers before you start. Finding the questions that matter to you is part of the work.
What is men's therapy like?
The structure of therapy depends on your goals and what kind of change you hope to see in your life. In my practice, I offer weekly and biweekly sessions for individuals and couples, along with weekend intensives for couples who want a more concentrated period of work together.
A typical session may involve:
Discussing the challenges you are experiencing.
Exploring patterns of behavior.
Exploring different "parts" of your internal world.
Somatic exercises for embodiment,
Giving you space to process emotion.
What if I want help with sex, intimacy, or relationships?
Sexuality and intimacy can be topics that feel challenging to discuss. You might want a satisfying sex life but feel anxious, disconnected, ashamed, or unsure how to talk about what you want. You might also feel pressure to know what to do or assume sex should happen naturally if a relationship is healthy.
One belief I hear reflected in conversations about intimacy is that sex should just be easy if you love someone.
I have found in my work that sex is complex, and sometimes we need the help fo a therapist to understand our relationship to sex.
My work as a Certified Sex Therapist centers on helping people explore their sexual selves and develop a more connected, embodied experience of intimacy. That means making room for the layers of your history without treating your sexuality as something that needs to be fixed.
Depending on your needs, therapy may explore:
How you learned what sex is supposed to look like.
What happens internally when you feel pressure to perform or please someone.
Whether shame, fear, or past experiences make it difficult to be present.
How you communicate desire, boundaries, preferences, and uncertainty.
What emotional and physical intimacy mean to you.
How you and your partner respond when your sexual needs differ.
How do you choose the right therapist?
Finding the right therapist is about finding someone who's style and approach works for you. Its also important to know if someone offers tele-health options or in person options based on your preference. Lastly, you want to make sure that your schedules match up.
Is this a good fit for you?
My approach may be a good fit if you want to understand yourself more deeply, especially when your concerns involve sexuality, intimacy, or relationships. It may also suit you if you sense that something from your past is affecting your present but are not sure how the pieces fit together.
My training includes Level 1 Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. These perspectives inform how I think about internal experiences, protective patterns, and the ways people develop and relate to one another.
This approach may not be the best starting point for every situation. If you need immediate crisis support, urgent psychiatric evaluation, or specialized treatment outside my scope of practice, another service may be more appropriate. If you are unsure, a consultation can help us discuss what you need and whether my services are a reasonable fit.
Can you do men's therapy online in Denver, Colorado?
Yes. I offer telehealth services for clients located in states where I am licensed, including Colorado and Utah.=
Frequently asked questions about therapy for men
How often should I attend online therapy?
Many therapists offer weekly or biweekly sessions, depending on your needs, goals, availability, and the nature of the work. In my practice, I offer both options.
Can an online therapist for men help with sexual concerns?
Yes, a therapist with appropriate sex therapy training may be able to help you explore concerns involving desire, intimacy, communication, shame, or feeling disconnected during sex. The right approach depends on your circumstances. Some concerns may also benefit from medical evaluation or coordination with another qualified professional.
What is the cost of therapy? Do you take insurance?
I do not take insurance. Individual 50-55 minute sessions are 170, and couples sessions are 210.
How long does therapy last?
The length of therapy ranges depending on the challenges you are dealing with. I work with some folks for around a year, and others for multiple years. Therapy does not guarantee change, and so outcomes may be based on several factors.
Take the first step at your own pace
If you are considering men's therapy online and want to see whether we might be a good fit, I invite you to book a free 15-minute video consultation here. We can talk briefly about what brings you here, what you are looking for, and whether working together makes sense.
You are welcome to start exactly where you are.
Coty Nolin is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist licensed in Colorado and Utah. Coty helps individuals and couples explore sexuality, intimacy, and relationship patterns to develop a more connected, embodied experience of intimacy.
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