If you have stumbled upon this page, something about sex therapy is resonating- but you might be asking yourself "How do I know if this is really for me?" Lets start with what you are noticing. Are you feeling... Exhausted by the idea of talking about sex with your partner. Overwhelmed by the swirling, anxious thoughts that show up before a sexual encounter. Wanting to feel connected and present during sex, but continuing to feel some sort of “block”. Confused by your fantasi

When Couples Stop Talking About Sex TL;DR: When couples stop talking about sex, it doesn't necessarily mean they've stopped caring about each other or failed at communication. Often, repeated conversations that go nowhere can be a sign that something deeper is happening beneath the surface, such as anxiety, shame, rejection, resentment, differences in desire, attachment wounds, or fear of vulnerability. If you feel like you have tried everything and still feel stuck, sex ther

The Body You Bring to Bed by Rebecca Hiraoka. If you want to work with Rebecca, check out her services here How Body Image Shapes Pleasure, How Therapy Can Help Pleasure asks us to be in our bodies, but that can feel challenging. While having sex have you ever felt yourself leave the experience, enter your mind, and begin to wonder how your body is being perceived, tuning into the parts of your body that you do not like and feel fairly certain others are judging? Our Body Ima

What was the first time you saw sex depicted in a long term relationship? Was it in a movie? A TV show? Was it between your parents, or grandparents? Its likely somewhere along the way, you picked up a message that sex should be natural. A narrative that, “sex is simple if you are in the right relationship”. And so, maybe you adopted beliefs around sex that it should be “easy”. This is a common narrative about sex that can be harmful for several reasons. When desire discrepan

Have you ever felt like you and your partner shared the same brain? Have you ever felt like you could predict what your partner is going to say, how they will feel in certain situations, or even what they are thinking? Do you feel like you take on your partner’s emotions? (for example, if they are in a bad mood, you are in a bad mood.) And most importantly, do you ever feel like you lose your sense of self (your awareness of your own emotions, desires, wants) because you are

Intimacy and sexuality often involve more than just physical connection. Emotional barriers, past experiences, and inner conflicts can quietly shape how we relate to ourselves and our partners in intimate moments. Internal Family Systems (IFS), a therapeutic approach that explores the different parts within us, and can help us gain more awareness for the underlying working of our minds and bodies in the bedroom. What Is Internal Family Systems? Internal Family Systems is a mo

Does sex ever feel like a chore or something you have to check off your to do list? This is the most common concern I hear from folks...

Do you ever feel like when you are having sex you are stuck in "thinking" but not really "feeling"? Do you feel like you have trouble...

Couples therapy questions: What are my triggers? The word “triggered” is fairly mainstream these days. A “trigger” is a perceived threat...

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What is “defensiveness”? Defensiveness means “excessive concern with guarding against the real or imagined threat of criticism, injury to...

I have found in my training and practice as a sex and relationships therapist, that many people can experience a change in their sexual...